I have long been a believer in the idea that for life to be interesting one has to experience the extremes. That for your life to soar into the sublime it must balance itself in hell. My experiences have shown this to be true, that when good things happen so do bad of equal measure, but in my recent life these things seem to be astoundingly accurate.
On the one hand I feel the my artistic career is really starting to become something. I have been producing works that I feel are challenging both aesthetically and philosophically and people are paying attention to them.
On the other hand my personal life in the past few months has been a roller-coaster ride through hell.
Why does this balance have to occur? Why do you have to suffer to achieve? What is it that makes this some necessary law in the universe?
So it looks as if my immediate plans to vacate the city have been preempted by my responsibilities to my daughter. As I do not feel that my leaving will put her in a place that is secure I must remain here until such time as I am ready to either move with her or she is grown enough to take care of herself. (She is 8 years old)
In life we often have to do things we do not want to do. Our responsibilities are almost always only to our own well being. But in the case of our children we have to make decisions that may be uncomfortable for ourselves but secure a standard of living and a way of existing that is necessary for any child to live.
I guess I just do not feel that her life will be what it needs to be if I am not here to make sure she is happy. The course my life is taking has not changed, but the path I am walking down is constantly growing and unfolding before me. Hopefully being here for Isobel will be the right move.
As adults we must always consider our actions in response to our environment. In particular most parents, in my opinion, do not give enough thought to their children’s environment. We leave too much of the education and upbringing of our children to the schools and institutions we send them off to. (How many yuppie kids are closer to their daycare guardian than to their mom and dad?) Often these institutions are being run by agencies (churches, governments) whose actions we almost certainly do not agree with, yet off they go, to be programmed without our supervision.
The past few months have been a roller-coaster ride through hell. Maybe the coming autumn will sooth the souls of everyone involved and life can go on.
As I watch a storm move over Chicago, outside my windows and on my screen via the Wunderground radar feed, I feel the earth around me responding to the storms energy. Even in the complex array that is the urban landscape I am aware of this sonic/electro/magnetic force that moves over the city in waves of rain, lightning, and thunder. The forces pushing across the surface of the world as they do everyday make me wonder if the earth itself is not a being, a life-form whose weather is in every way paralleled in the electrical activity of our brain.
In all of the religions of the ancient world there is a god of thunder and storms. Thor, Donar, has ruled the sky and struck fear and wonder into the minds of ancient men. As much as the sun or death itself the storm is a force that must be reckoned with even in our overly modern world. To give it sacrifice and do its icon honor is something that was instilled in all men of the past and only now is slipping away from us, reduced to the highlights of the weather channel.
But as I sit and hear the rumble of the storm move away, out over the lake, I know that a god has just passed through the sky (or that earth has just had a thought) and I fell stronger for it.
The problem with emotion is that it is by nature an uncontrollable force. Emotional bonding occurs for reasons of group safety and genetic endurance. But the social bonds that reinforce our emotional states are not necessarily productive of good in our particular situation.
How does love fade? How does the attachment we have for another continue through suffering and pain and abuse? When can one expect to be free of the agony of self that is broken love?
In my past I have been in similar situations and though marriage is much the same as any emotional/sexual relationship it does carry its own weight. I have felt this feeling before, but never to this degree. (Though I probably said that at each breakup along the way in my life.)
When we consider another important to us emotionally the growth period of that emotional bond usually takes a long time to grow and strengthen. When the heart is broken we want the emotions to cease immediately yet for all practical purposes there is no off switch to love.
Chronicle has been officially accepted to screen at the 2007 Copenhagen International Documentary Film Festival this November. (with a potential performance by the Chicago Underground Trio live the same night – including myself on video performance!)
Since my last post (about leaving the city) I have received a bunch of messages asking where I am going. The truth is I do not know. When I was young, before settling in Chicago, I would just wander wherever the moment would take me. I figure I will just wander away at the right moment and then wonder back when I am ready.
Though I will be leaving Chicago at the end of this month I am tied too closely here for a total move. (That will have to wait until other things can be in order). My daughter is here as well as my studio.
But I need a retreat of sorts, a time and a place to reprogram my mental machine and sort out the various emotional turmoil’s my marriage has caused. So though I will be going soon, I will return to finish what I have started.
when I see the way
you move through your day
jealously watching me like
the eyes of your lovers
how do you say love
when words have no meaning here
how can you sit and stare
when I am gone
so the truth is pain, yet so are lies
before I knew you I
remembered your kiss
eyes like the souls of my dreams
of melting caramel and summer lawns
now I live in this nightmare
ridden by a loa of jealousy and rage
forgotten are the moments
of passionate embrace